Thursday, February 24, 2011
Stupid Stuff Feminists Believed as Kids
Now I'm pretty sure I believed some stupid things as a kid, but being raised in a liberal area in the 70s it didn't get quite that stupid. Oh wait, yeah it did, because I was raised feminist. I was raised on Marlo Thomas' "Free To Be You and Me" where the princess either didn't need rescuing or she rescued the prince. I had grade school rooms with tables full of books we were free to pick up and read that were ALL about famous women in history - Amelia Earheart, or this or that slave girl made good, or Amish girl overcomes oppressive background blah-de-blah. Library time was full of books and stories that either contained heroines or equal numbers of hero/heroines who had no gendered differences (such as the Secret 7 series, a group of boys and girls who solved mysteries together.) Even in kindergarten the boys were just as likely to want to play in the "house" section as the blocks section because A) girls liked blocks too and B) all the cool equipment (fake stove, sink, refrigerator, washer/dryer, tables/chairs) were in the "house" section and boys wanted to get their hands on those gadgets too. Whenever my mother was out on a weekend my father would vacuum, do dishes, cook lunch, do laundry, etc. He said he'd spent 4 years in the army and everyone ought to so they could learn to take care of themselves. Sure, she did it during the week, but then she also got to sit at the table and read a book for 3 hours at a time if she wanted, and he didn't get that. It never occurred to me that cats were female and dogs were male. Why should it? About the only dumb gender idea I can remember was that I thought when I was about 3 that kids grew up to marry their mothers - not because of gender, but because being married meant you live together.
So I think a better question might be...DID you have any dumb ideas about gender when you were a kid, and if so, where do you think it came from and does it even matter? Because we're...well some of us aren't anyway...not kids anymore, right? And most of us know where we differ and where we're pretty much the same, don't we? I can't tell you why I even brought this one up except it annoyed me. And I don't like to be annoyed by feminists.